Couldn’t you use the custom form like this:
STEP ONE:
Open a Text editor and paste your form content-
<?php
// Custom Contact Form
?>
<div id="my-ccf">
<form id="contactform" method="post" action="<?php bloginfo('template_directory'); ?>/_assets/submitemail.php">
<input name="user" type="text" value="Name" />
<input name="email" type="text" value="E-Mail"/>
<input name="url" type="text" value="Website" />
<input name="subject" type="text" value="Subject" />
<textarea rows="10" name="message" cols="50" id="message">Your message here...</textarea>
<input type="submit" class="button" value="SEND" id="send" />
<div id="error"></div>
</form>
</div>
STEP 2:
Save the file as my-contact-form.php (upload my-contact-form.php to your themes root directory)
STEP 3:
When you want to display your contact form, place this in the template file:
<?php get_template_part('my-contact-form.php'); ?>