views_edit-post filter not working (custom post type)

I finally figured this out. What I had above is correct, as far as it goes. But the missing piece was changing the query based on that. So in addition, I needed to add the following code:

add_filter( 'parse_query','norelated_filter' );
function norelated_filter( $query ) {
  if( is_admin() AND $query->query['post_type'] == 'my-cpt' ) {
  if ($_GET['norelated']) {
    $qv = &$query->query_vars;
    $qv['meta_query'] = array(
    array(
     'key' => 'related',
     'compare' => 'NOT EXISTS'
    ));
    }
    }
    }