So after some time I done exactly what I wanted and I thought it would be nice to share.
So in functions.php
add
function c_parent_comment_counter($pid,$uid){
global $wpdb;
$query = "SELECT COUNT(comment_post_id) AS count FROM $wpdb->comments WHERE <code>comment_approved</code> = 1 AND <code>comment_post_ID</code> = $pid AND <code>user_id</code> = $uid AND <code>comment_parent</code> = 0";
$parents = $wpdb->get_row($query);
return $parents->count;
}
and in comments.php
global $current_user, $post;
$number_of_parents = c_parent_comment_counter($post->ID,$current_user->ID);
echo "parents: ".$number_of_parents;
if ( $number_of_parents >= 1 ) {
echo '<nav class="withcomment">';
comment_form( array( 'title_reply' => __( 'Reply' ) ) );
echo '</nav>';
} else {
echo '<span class="withoutcomment">' . comment_form( array( 'title_reply' => __( 'Your opinion' ) ) ) . '</span>';
}
?>
in style.css
.withcomment {
display: none;
}
This will count how many parent comments a user added and if its one or more it will hide the form. if its 0 it will show the form. but when you click the reply button the form will show and you will be able to reply to any comment.
THIS IS NOT HACK PROOF!!!