WordPress and IPN problem

First of all, is better use get_template_directory_uri() instead of bloginfo(...

<input type="hidden" name="notify_url" value="<?php echo get_template_directory_uri(); ?>/ipn.php">

but you are right if you think the problem is not this one.

I cannot be sure, but I bet your problem is here:

include_once( $_SERVER['DOCUMENT_ROOT'] . '/wp-load.php' );

This is a problematic way to include wp-load.php, but …

Why load the entire wordpress environment for just sending an email?

Be aware that loading wp-load.php you load all WP core files, get options from database, load all active plugins, load the active theme functions.php and the parent theme functions.php if you are using a child theme. You also trigger some actions and filters… a lot of unnecessary stuff.

You don’t need them at all: just send the email using php mail() function, (or at least include a class like this).

Your process will be a lot faster and I bet… successfull.

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